Every single day small steps that build up until you move to stronger and bigger goals. What stops us is fear, fear of success fear of rejection, fear of failure. What are really afraid is pain. What we are driven is the pain and the desire to gain pleasure. You don’t have to have a complicate idea to change your life, all you need is ideas that you apply. You can’t get caught up, you have to use your personal power and take action. What prevents us from taking action is the desire to gain pleasure or the need to avoid pain.

When we procrastinate is because we think that the action is more painful than not taking action. The need to avoid pain is biological. Change what we link pain and pleasure to. The need to avoid pain is greater motivator than the need to gain pleasure. What determines your behavior is which pain is more intense.

What you are doing differently when you are at your best? The one skill you must learn is to learn rapidly. At any moment in time our reality is based on what we are focused on, what is real to you the pain or the pleasure. All you need to do is change your mental focus. Use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you don’t have enough money is because you linked more pain to having it. What will happen to my passion if I don’t follow through. Repetition is the mother of skill. 

Assignment

1. Write down 4 actions that you need to take. Develop more muscle more will.
2. Make sure you write down what is the pain you have associated in the past.
3. Write down all the pleasure you get by not following through.
4. Write down what it will cost you if you don’t change.

What drives us are emotions. Think 3-4-5 years.

Write down 4 actions that you need to take. Develop more muscle more will.

1. Exercise on the treadmill
2. Brush teeth every night
3. Get certified as an Azure Administrator Asssociate
4. Ego raincheck

Make sure you write down what is the pain you have associated in the past.

For action 1

• The pain that I have associated is the muscle pain and that it is time consuming.
• Also the pain that I do not see immediate results.
• The pain of consistency and discipline
• The pain of being a beginner
• The boredom of treadmill

For Action 2

• The pain of taking the time
• The pain of not seeing immediate results
• The pain of consistency and discipline

For action 3

• The pain of studying
• boredom
• the fear of not being good enough

For action 4

• Unworthiness
• Trying to impress and not getting noticed

Write down all the pleasure you get by not following through.

• Connection with parents and the pleasure of doing nothing.
• The absence of consequences and the feeling of connection.
• The absence of discipline
• The cigarettes pleasure.

Write down what it will cost you if you don’t change.

• I will not feel successful and accomplished
• I will have a sense of pain for not following through
• I will lose my teeth
• I will not make more money
• I will not progress in my career
• I won’t feel important and competent
• I will have a feeling of boredom and have no excitement, no passion for life.